Warning: derogatory language below.
Free agent quarterback Cam Newton appeared on a podcast on Sunday and continued to shove his whole foot straight into his mouth.
During his appearance on the “Million Dollaz Worth of Game” podcast, Newton explained how he thinks women should act, based on how his mother acted during her upbringing.
“I had a perfect, perfect example of what a man was in my life by my dad. My parents have been together for 36, 37 years now and that’s a beautiful thing,” Newton told Mediaite.
“I grew up in a family of three parents. My mother, my father and my grandmother. And I knew what a woman was. Not a bad female dog! proclaimed Newton.
The host then asked what the difference was between a woman and what Newton called a “bad female dog.”
“A bad female dog is a person who’s just, you know, ‘Honey, I’m a bad female dog, I do this, I do that.’ I watch the part but I don’t play the part,” Newton clarified.
“There are a lot of women who are bad bitches. And I say sluts in a way, not to degrade a woman but just to get out of the aesthetic of what they consider a boss,” he continued.
“Now a woman for me means managing her own but knowing how to meet a man’s needs. To the right? And I think a lot of times when you get that aesthetic of, “I’m a boss bitch, Imma this, Imma that.” No baby! But you can’t cook. You don’t know when to shut up! You don’t know how to allow a man to lead,” Newton said.
So, to recap, Newton thinks wives should cook, be quiet, attend to all of their husband’s needs, and not be a “boss chick”, which Newton seems to think is something bad. Newton didn’t say that was the type of woman he wanted as a wife or partner, he said that was what he believed a woman should be, and women who don’t act like that don’t act like a woman should.
Newton is obviously allowed to believe and think what he wants, but he said some things that have been used to denigrate, belittle and silence women for decades, if not centuries. Women who fought for equal rights and access to birth control in the 1960s and 1970s fought against the expectation that they had to get married, have children, cook every meal, stay calm and meet all of their husband’s needs.
In the decades since, women have largely rejected this view of who they should be, replacing it with the idea that women can be anything they want to be, including a traditional housewife. And the practice of letting “the man” lead a heterosexual relationship has also been abandoned in favor of both parties ruling and making decisions together as equal partners.
There’s nothing wrong with Newton wanting the same type of relationship as his parents, as long as his partner is fully ok with cooking, is quiet, and lets him lead. But if that’s what he really thinks all women should be, someone needs to provide him with a calendar and point out that the year is 2022, not 1952.
Newton’s views on women once got him in trouble
It’s obvious that Newton hasn’t expanded his very narrow idea of what a woman should be in the five years since he told a room full of reporters that the concept of a female football writer had made him laugh.
Yes, that actually happened. At a press conference in 2017, when Newton was still with the Carolina Panthers, Charlotte Observer reporter Jourdan Rodrigue asked Newton a question about routes. Newton’s response was the exact opposite of what he should have said.
“It’s funny to hear a woman talk about routes like — it’s funny,” Newton said via ESPN.
While the Panthers said Newton later apologized to Rodrigue, Rodrigue said in a statement that Newton did not apologize at all and that what he told her after the press conference was in does “worse”.
You would think that after being lambasted for this, Newton would have learned to keep his opinions about a woman’s place to himself. That seems harder to do than just understanding that there are as many different types of femininity as there are women on this planet, but he didn’t seem to take that lesson either.